My reading list grows exponentially. Everytime I read a book, it'll mention three other books I feel I have to read. It's like a particularly relentless series of pop-up ads.
-A.J. Jacobs

Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Easy There, Girl.

Hi. My name is Tiffany and I'm a compulsive over-achiever and goal setter.

Hi Tiffany.

*insert nervous smile*

You see, all of my lofty goals were just that. Lofty. And so much was on my plate...and...and...
*breaks down in sobs*

It's okay. Let it all out. We are here to support you. Tell us how you really feel.

*quiet sniffles; wipes tears from eyes* It's just that when I make huge goals and don't succeed, I feel worse off than if I hadn't set goals in the first place.

*heads nod in agreement (or support - or for fear that the crazy sobbing over-achiever might hurt them if they don't)*


Blah. Blah. Blah. Whatever.

So basically, I realized that setting ridiculously high goals for yourself is not a good idea. Because when you fail (miserably, at that) it really, really, really sucks. Did I mention really?

I've made new (obtainable) goals for myself. They aren't able to be posted either, because they aren't daily goals. Some days are rougher than others. Some days my children make me wonder what type of species they are and why God granted them with the highest, screechiest voices in the world. Some days my kids fight from the moment they roll out of bed. Some days I don't feel like writing. (GASP!)

I had to remind myself that this is my summer. I work all school year to get to this point and it is ridiculous that I am stressing myself out even more than I do during the school year.

So, some days I will:

Not get out of my PJs
Spend 5 hours at the pool working on my tan
Play with my kids
Read a book

Which in turn, will let the words flow easier. Anyone else a chronic and compulsive overachiever that punishes themself for not meeting goals? Come on. You're a writer. Admit it. :)

7 brilliant remarks:

MBW aka Olleymae said...

lol--I fess up to this as well! I think it's inherent to being an aspiring author.

I must say that I love your goals. I would loooovee to stay in my pj's all day or work on my tan. But my boss might think it was kinda weird.

I hope your new, reasonable goals work out well for you. I set a crazy goal for myself for June and lets just say that I can count my nightly hours of sleep on one hand. It's great :D

Summer said...

Oh yes. Nothing like imagined guilt to get in the way of productivity. :-)

Good luck with your redefined goals, and hope to see you around a bit more. :-)

Dangerous With a Pen said...


I think it's also inherent in being a teacher. Many of us have that darn Type A personality where we just set out to do EVERYTHING in very little time. We have to be that way at school, inefficiency is often not an option and I, too, find it hard to turn it off when summer begins. Especially when there are kids and camps and the house reeeeally needs to be turned upside down and shaken out and I really just want to write my book but sometimes the words just don't flow.

I am in your shoes (sorry, if it gets crowded). Trying to calm it down, slow it down. It's always a transition into summer... not a bad one, but it's definitely a complete change in life for a little while!

Karen Amanda Hooper said...

Nope. I set no goals. That way I will never fail to reach them. ;)

Jemi Fraser said...

I don't set goals for precisely this reason! I tend to get very competitive with myself and become a little obsessive - which probably isn't a whole lot of fun for anyone!

Donna Hole said...

Every one a remarkable goal.

Good for you.


Olivia Herrell said...

I like all four of yours. Think I'll set borrow at least one of those. :)

~Thanks, Olivia